When most sugar babies are brand new to sugar dating, their prevalent thought is more or less “why haven’t I always been doing this.” Suddenly dating just makes sense on a level it never did before, and everything is finally as it should be – two equally valuable people who have no issue being honest and upfront about their needs having fun together – and it feels incredible.
But while life in the sugar bowl is definitely sweet, it’s not perfect. Sooner or later, every sugar baby will run into a challenge or two whether that’s a breakup that came out of the blue or a salt daddy who wasn’t all that he seemed at first.
However, while challenges can be frustrating, they’re not the end of the world, and they shouldn’t be seen as a reason to quit sugaring if it’s otherwise been a positive experience so far. Here are some things to keep in mind when you run into snags while enjoying life in the sugar bowl.
Reassess your needs to make sure they’re being met.
As is the case with anything in life, even something you love and genuinely enjoy doing, it’s normal to need to need to reassess things after a while. People evolve over the years. Their needs change and mature as they learn more about themselves and continue to grow into the people they were meant to be.
That’s why it’s just as important for sugar daters to take inventory now and then and make sure their needs are still the same as they might have been years ago. Maybe you were all about the no-strings-attached approach a few years ago but have been wondering lately whether you’re ready for something more serious. Or maybe you’re just not into the same types of sugar daddies you always were before.
Whatever the case may be, it’s natural, normal, and healthy to want something different after a while. You also have every right to go after it, but you should know that sugar daddies and sugar relationships come in many different types. It’s likely you can find whatever it is you need right here in the sugar bowl.
Make sure your sugar persona is still a fit for you.
Even though key principles like honesty, forthrightness, and boundaries are huge deals when it comes to sugar dating, most people still have dating personas to some extent. This is especially the case if they sugar online. A persona is a good way to add a bit of mystique to your online presence, stand out in a crowd, and give potential partners a taste of what they can expect should they choose to date you.
However, it’s all too easy to just get used to a persona and stick with it even once it’s no longer a good fit. This can mean you’re no longer attracting the right partners or dating experiences for you, so it’s a good idea to check in with yourself in this regard now and then.
Maybe you used to be more of a femme fatale-style sugar baby but have evolved into more of a girl-next-door type over the years. Or maybe you used to be a driven, ambitious student but have since graduated and are now more of an adventurer. Ask yourself who you are now, and make sure your sugar profiles reflect that personality – your authentic self at your very, very best.
Tell your haters where to go.
Every sugar dater will likely deal with haters at some point along the way. If it’s not a friend or fellow sugar baby who’s jealous of the fact that you’re living better than she is, then it could well be a relative or acquaintance who doesn’t approve of your lifestyle. And that can be really difficult, especially if the hater in question is someone you care about.
But it’s important not to take it personally or to let it turn you away from whatever approach to dating is best for you at this point in your life. Many people who hate on other people’s choices instead of focusing on their own are doing it because they see something they don’t understand. Others do it out of sheer jealousy. But either way, it’s on them and not you.
Ultimately, what matters most when it comes to your love life is that you’re happy and that all of your needs are being met. That’s likely why you made the leap to sugar dating in the first place – to get more of what you really want out of dating and relationships. So, you’re well within your rights to take stock once in a while and make sure you’re still getting everything you want. After all, you deserve it and then some!