People are complex and aren’t always what they seem, especially these days. You can’t always judge a book by its cover. And you can’t assume you know everything there is to know about a person because they have a certain job title or take a particular approach to dating, either. This is just as much the case for sugar babies as it is for any other type of person.

When most people try to picture a sugar baby, they think of someone young, blonde, conventionally pretty, naïve, and more interested in a man’s wallet than his personality – someone like Marilyn Monroe’s Lorelei Lee from Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. But in actuality, sugar babies come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and personalities.

That said, you’re doing yourself a disservice if you don’t give sugaring a try solely because you don’t think you’re too unconventional of a sugar baby to fit in. Somewhere out there is a sugar daddy looking for exactly what you bring to the table.

Sugar babies don’t have to be models

There are lots and lots of ways a woman can be beautiful, and all those varieties are well appreciated in the sugar bowl. Yes, there are tall, fashion-obsessed, blonde Barbie lookalikes in the sugar bowl, and they do very well for themselves. But there are many, many sugar daddies who are looking for something different.

Sugar babies can be tall or short, curvy or slim, fair or dark. They come in all races, colors, and nationalities. They can have curly hair, freckles, and unconventional features, and there are daddies out there who are into all of it. So don’t deny yourself a dive into the sugar bowl because you’re not a runway model. You truly don’t have to be.

Sugar babies can be independent

It’s a common misconception that women get into sugar dating because they’re helpless, can’t take care of themselves, or don’t want to take care of themselves. Most sugar babies are highly independent women with goals, dreams, and aspirations of their own. They can and do take care of themselves.

They just also happen to want something better for their dating lives than the same old disappointments they’re used to. They’re tired of dating man-children with no goals or standards who expect their girlfriends to be like second mothers to them. They want real men in their lives who bring something to the table – men who like spoiling their ladies and treating them like the queens they are.

Sugar babies aren’t all about money

While most sugar daddies are more successful and affluent than average, it’s a common misconception that sugaring is about money. Naturally, rich men are going to want to share what they have with the women they love, so being spoiled absolutely rotten does tend to come with the territory when you’re a sugar baby, but you don’t have to be money-focused to enjoy sugaring.

All you need is to be a high-value woman interested in meeting an equally high-value man. You need to value qualities like honesty, emotional maturity, stability, and balance because those are the hallmarks of any good sugar relationship. You don’t need to be about money or looking to live off a man, because that’s not what sugaring is about.

Sugar babies can break the mold

If there’s one thing every sugar baby should come to the sugar bowl prepared to do, it’s to be herself. Because for every sugar daddy who’s out there looking for his own personal Barbie, there’s another who’s sick and tired of that. He’s looking for someone unique and unconventional – a sugar baby who couldn’t possibly be mistaken for anyone else.

Today’s sugar daddies love women who are sassy, curious, and goal oriented. That’s because they’re looking for more than just a pretty face. They want someone they can talk to, laugh with, and share ideas with. They want a partner in every sense of the word, and they’re not going to find that with someone whose beauty is only skin deep.

Sugar babies can be commitment-oriented

While many sugar relationships are casual, open, or otherwise meant to come without any strings attached, that’s not all there is to the sugar bowl. Many sugar daters are ultimately looking for the same things in a relationship that traditional daters want – commitment, trust, love, and lasting partnership. They just want to make certain they choose the right person.

Sugaring gives women who want the best of both worlds a place where they fit in. They can run their love lives as casually or seriously as they please. And best of all, they can change their minds as often as they please.

In other words, there’s room for unconventional sugar babies in the sugar bowl no matter how different, sassy, goal-oriented, or serious about dating you are. Anything goes here, and everyone belongs, so don’t be afraid to dive in and try it for yourself.