If you’re like most sugar babies, you probably first got into the sugar bowl because you wanted your love life to actually be fun again. And, really, what young, beautiful woman wouldn’t prefer being with a sophisticated, successful man who treats her like a queen to putting up with immature man-babies and mama’s boys?
However, sugaring is like a lot of things in life that start out super fun. As it becomes a bigger and bigger part of your approach to life, it only makes sense that you’d be more invested in it and take it more seriously. If you’re not careful, you might forget about the fun, which would be a crying shame. Here are some tips for ensuring that doesn’t happen.
1. Don’t lose yourself in sugar
A tendency to lose one’s personal identity in the larger identity of an established relationship is something everyone sometimes struggles with. But even very independent people can run that risk when they’re new to sugaring. It’s just so easy to get all wrapped up in the trips, gifts, and fine living a sugar baby typically winds up doing – especially if you date multiple daddies at a time.
It’s crucial that you maintain your own identity through it all, though. When people lose the sense of who they are – even if parts of doing so feel wonderful – it can eventually lead to frustration and unhappiness. Remember to keep things balanced. Don’t stop pursuing your professional goals, hobbies, and interests just because you’ve got a sugar daddy now.
2. Stay financially independent
As you already know, sugar dating isn’t about money. But when you’re dating a fabulously wealthy, generous sugar daddy who adores you, you’re likely going to wind up reaping the financial benefits of that one way or the other, regardless. It can be tempting just to let your daddy take care of everything for you and forget about your own finances.
This is a huge mistake, though. Sugaring can be an excellent way to maybe worry a little less about how you’re going to keep the lights on. But it doesn’t (and shouldn’t) replace the need for your own financial independence. Sugar dating should complement the rest of your vibrant, full, independent life. Allowing it to become a replacement for it is a sure way to suck the fun out of sugar bowl pretty quickly.
3. Be willing to let go when it’s not working
If there’s one dating mistake pretty much everyone makes, it’s staying too long in situations that aren’t working. There’s always that hope that a bad situation might change or that a person you’re incompatible with might. Even the most secure people sometimes worry that maybe there’s no one else out there for them. And yes, this happens even in the sugar bowl.
Remember, you left traditional dating behind for sugaring because you wanted to jettison all that frustration and disappointment from your life. It makes zero sense to keep tolerating it anyway. So be willing to let go of situations that aren’t working as soon as you know that’s the case. There will always be other sugar daddies out there who’d love a chance to be with you. But you’ll never meet any of them if you stubbornly cling to people you know aren’t a match.
4. Stay true to your needs
The great thing about sugar dating is that there’s no one right way to do it, so you’re the one in the driver’s seat. If you love casual dating or prefer to keep things non-monogamous, you’ll find there are lots of sugar daddies out there who feel the same way. But if you’re a “forever relationship” type of girl, you can definitely have that, too. In other words, there’s no need to try to squash yourself into someone else’s mold.
So if you’re serious about having fun in the sugar bowl over the long haul, stay true to your principles and don’t let anyone convince you to compromise them. And don’t feel the need to spread yourself super thin just to make sure you get the most out of sugar dating, either. Many sugar babies take breaks from sugaring (and dating, in general) as needed so they can focus on their jobs, studies, or families, so don’t be afraid to do the same.
Remember, sugar dating is fun. It’s about passion, romance, adventure, and connections so strong they feel like they’re straight out of a movie. You should look forward to each and every sugar date you go on, as well as think fondly of any sugar daddies you’re currently seeing. If you’re not having fun, something is wrong, and it’s time to rethink the way you’re approaching it. You’ll be glad you did.
