Even when you know it’s the right fit for you, life in the sugar bowl can take some getting used to. And some things can be particularly anxiety-inducing when you’re a brand-new sugar baby – like first dates. Naturally, you want to make a terrific first impression, but that can be hard to do when you’re entirely new to sugar dating.

One of the most important things to remember is impressing a potential sugar daddy isn’t just about knowing what to do. It’s also about knowing what not to do or say, especially when you’re meeting up with a potential sugar daddy for the first time. Here are a few things to keep in mind.

Don’t spend the date on your phone.

These days, cell phones are so much more than just a handy way to stay in touch with people and keep up with what’s going on in the world. They’re significant parts of how people live their entire lives, so it’s natural for most folks to be on and off their phones pretty much all day long. But don’t let the fact that being on your phone is common and even acceptable in certain situations make you think it’s OK to be on yours while you’re on a sugar date.

Remember, your potential daddy doesn’t know you yet. He could view your behavior as disrespectful or a sign that you’re not enjoying his company. Or he may be concerned that this is how you are all the time – constantly glued to your phone. So, play it safe and stay off your phone as much as possible. If you do absolutely need to check it at any point, excuse yourself to the ladies’ room first.

Don’t be intrusive or overly personal.

Remember that any potential sugar daddies you might meet are primarily into sugar dating for the same reasons you are. Instead of dealing with the same drama and problems that come with traditional dating, they want their dating lives to be a refreshing escape from everyday stress. Your date will be sizing you up for your potential in this regard, so don’t give him a reason to think the wrong things.

For instance, a first date is not the right time to dig too deeply into a would-be sugar daddy’s personal life. Listen attentively if he wants to tell you a few details, like whether he has kids or is divorced. But don’t dig too much further into the issue. Don’t ask why the marriage didn’t work out or what the kids are into. Don’t offer up personal details of your own life in an effort to relate. Just listen attentively and be sympathetic.

Don’t unload any of your personal baggage.

Most people have been on a date with a person who seemed full to the brim with sob stories. If that’s the case for you, too, then you already know how it feels to be on the receiving end of an experience like that. It’s a major buzzkill, and it’s something to be avoided at all costs if you’re on a first date with a potential sugar daddy.

A first date should be lighthearted and fun – something that’s all about getting to know one another on a comfortable level to see whether you click. It’s not the time to share sob stories or allude to all the things you hope this guy will be able to do for you when and if he becomes your sugar daddy. However, you should be prepared for a potential conversation about what you’re looking for in a possible arrangement, especially if the two of you hit it off and want to see each other again. Beyond that, though, keep the conversation intelligent and enjoyable.

Don’t forget being out in public calls for discretion.

Although there are many qualities top-tier sugar daddies look for in a sugar baby, there are few more important than discretion. There are many ways to show your date that you have it in you to be discreet, including not asking prying questions or getting overly personal before you even know each other. However, choosing your words carefully when you’re out in public is another big one.

Your date will appreciate you not blurting out words that call attention to you and make it evident that you are sugar daters, so be mindful of your vocabulary. You’ll also want to grab a spot that’s as private as possible, away from the bulk of the hustle and bustle so that you can talk comfortably. Make sure you pay attention to your date’s body language, as well, for clues to his comfort level with how things are progressing.

Going on a first date will always be a stressful experience, whether you sugar date or not. But thankfully, it’s possible to prepare for the experience and ensure the best dating experience possible. Do that, and you can’t go wrong!